Getting Started:

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1. SET THE MOOD
Make sure you have a few hours to explore this new idea and arrange a quiet place with no distractions. The idea is to assault the senses with sexy lighting and a sweet smelling room. Light some candles, Get out your incense, sandalwood and musk are good for stimulating your senses. Dress in loose clothing that can come off easily, Red is the color of fertility, and would be preferred over other colors. Keep some aphrodisiacs close by to feed each other,like strawberries, oysters, or chocolates. Play soft romantic, soothing music in the background.

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2. EYE CONTACT
Begin by facing each other and gazing into each other’s eyes—clothes on. Focus on one of your partner’s eyes; this keeps you intimately exposed and remember by gazing into each others eyes, you are gazing into the soul of the other. So look your man in the eye all the way through.

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3. BREATHE
Now Breathe. First you breathe in and out together, at the same cadence. Then you move into Breath Exchange. This is where you inhale when he exhales, then exhale when he inhales, basically, you’re breathing each others breath. Do this for at least 10-15 minutes. Concentrate on each breath as you breathe in. Breathe out as slowly as possible. Do this either sitting side by side or facing each other or lay on his chest and breathe his breath.  Now your breathing should be synchronized which will allow you to relax and concentrate on your body. Breathing helps you to become centred.

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3. GET NAKED
Now you can take your clothes off. Sit on his lap, facing him and wrap your legs around his waist. Do the breath exchange while still in the seated position.

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4. TOUCH  THAT BODY
There are so many erogenous zones that get no attention so touch, kiss, lick, massage or stroke your way to your Nirvana. But make sure that the genitalia are the very last to get attention. Don’t forget those forgotten spots like, behind the knee or inside of the thigh.

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5. NOW  IT GETS INTERESTING
At this point penetration can occur, but  WITHOUT  breaking eye contact. Now this might be a little awkward at first but generally, men love to see the look on your face when you’re climaxing or going down on him. Use slow and controlled movements to stimulate each other. The slow pace of tantric lovemaking will allow you to explore the sensual range of your bodies and minds.  Now remember, the Grand finale is NOT the orgasm, as this is not the primary objective of  Tantra.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rather, attempt to prolong the act ,which will increase dynamite sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. So don’t  focus on the ‘end’ result rather enjoy the new and exciting feelings that holding off will bring.

Don’t restrict yourself, in terms of time. Learn to control your orgasm - when you feel release is imminent stop all movement and concentrate on breathing. . Avoid that urge to come for as long as possible and when you do, keep genital contact afterwards for as long as possible as well.

While you may balk at the idea of avoiding climax these practices can help you both develop sexual ecstasy and connectedness far beyond that of a typical orgasm. That's right, not coming makes you hornier in the long run. It also increases overall sexual energy, which, if you get really into it, can then be channeled into non sexual activities.

 

At the point of climax  for both women and men, you remain at the peak of ecstatic pleasure without climaxing. There are all the feelings of a typical orgasm, but it lasts for many minutes (or even hours), without a traditional orgasm. This leads to profound sexual and emotional merging.

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One basic tantric tenet is that men can withhold ejaculation and prolong erection, and that seminal fluid contains drops of vital energy, the spending of which ages the body and dulls the senses.Throughout the experience both partners should focus on harmonizing each others energies. All thoughts should be on the body and its sensations.

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Remember to breathe and concentrate. Partners should now be able to relax fully into the waves of pleasure. As the experience gets more intense you may feel the urge to talk or giggle, but stay with it. Just concentrate and enjoy the waves of energy as they take you on this journey of exploration to a pleasure you’ve probably not felt before. And use only NON verbal communication.

 

As you become more proficient, your experience becomes more intimate and the shared energy, looking into each other's eyes and breathing each other’s breaths becomes transcendent.  The kissing is electric and there might be no penetration, no genital stimulation, but chances are you will be more turned on than when having regular sex. The euphoria experienced can be described as being on a ‘high’.

All you have to remember to do is PAY ATTENTION, use your imagination and RELAX!

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